I Need Saving From Other Women Not Men
I've always felt that women are seasoned professionals at protesting against men (which is totally valid and fair in most cases) but this rage and need to point fingers has made women forget about building relationships and support within our own community.
We praise campaigns like #MeTooHigh, flaunt "feminist" swag, and yet high school locker rooms and hallways are still hostile environments for the majority of girls. One second we will be praising a celebrities efforts in the fight for women, the next gossiping and pointing out her flaws. It's a toxic cycle, and we can no longer solely point our fingers at men as we are perpetrators too.
Preaching about feminism is one thing, but acting upon those values is a completely different monster to slay. When it comes down to it, a lot of us are still quick to judge, make fun of, or put down other women because we feel insecure ourselves. On a personal level, I find myself criticizing other women when I feel threatened by their successes, ability to be themsleves, or beauty.
Woman have historically needed to stick together for power and support, but as time goes on and our voices gain more merit; groups, cliques, and the gang mentalities are no longer needed. We are strong enough, correction, have always been strong enough to stand on our own, the only difference is that now women have been given an actual platform to express themselves in politics, media, and the arts.
It might seem simple and adolescent–like, but more often than not find myself wondering,
"At what point did pop culture decide it was okay to pit women against each other?"
I can still vividly remember having my own friend group run away from me at the playground and then compliment me the next day. Finding a stable environment in the female community has always been complicated for me, and is something I work on almost every day. Placing trust in others is complicated for me as I fear backstabbing remarks.
We've been taught since we were little girls about popularity contests, hot or not lists, and friend groups, but very rarely about body positivity, sexuality, and self-expression.
I feel that sometimes I will look for approval from men instead of women, and am ready to change this narrative. I will now be offering support, and approval, to women in my community, and in tune, hope I'll be saved.